Last weekend we had our first two-night pass since Christian has been able to make home visits. Maybe it's because it was Halloween, and maybe not...but it was hard. We picked him up after he finished school on Friday, and from that time until he went to bed Saturday night being a parent was a lot of work. Sometimes parenting is easy and you just get to bask in the loveliness. Other times not so much. There were no breakdowns and no fits, but there was an awful lot of resistance. Thankfully, Sunday was better.
I relayed all that to his therapist and she spoke with him about it in their regular session. When we had family therapy we discussed it a bit more, and incorporated what he's learned about willingness and radical acceptance into the conversation. Christian was able to admit to what had happened without falling apart or blaming anyone else, and let me tell you that is a big deal all by itself.
We picked him up yesterday afternoon for another overnight pass and this is one of those where you get to just love and appreciate each moment. We decided to stop at Dunkin Donuts on the way home yesterday afternoon (I can't seem to get enough donuts at the moment) and for the most part we had the place to ourselves. After we'd been there about 20 minutes, the only other patron in the store laughed at something she overheard Audrey say. We spoke to her for a minute or two and she said, "you have two very well-behaved children, and that's not something you see everyday."
My heart swelled with pride. I know she doesn't know us or our journey, but I sure did appreciate what she said!
Last night after the kids were in bed Chris and I were talking more about these skills that our family is learning together: willingness, radical acceptance, and coping ahead just to name a few. We are choosing to look on the bright side and think about how much better we'll all be for making this a part of who we are now.
One step closer.
I'm so thankful for them.
